How to Get Over an Unrequited Crush That Has Lasted for Years

If this person has had any sort of presence in your life, even if only in your mind, they’ve been serving you in some way.

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Confessions of an INFJ in Love

I know enough of INFJ love to make the following five confessions.

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6 INFJ First Date Tips

To encourage the likelihood of future dates, make sure your first date allows your INFJ the opportunity to get to know you on a deep level.

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How Should an INFJ Respond If Someone Asks Them Out?

If this is someone you like and that you feel is worthy of your time and affection, don’t be afraid to give them a chance.

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Should You Text an INFJ First?

Sending a first text will convey the message that you like this INFJ and are interested in keeping in touch with them.

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5 Behaviors That Might Unknowingly Repel an INFJ

While some of the following behaviors may be fine for someone an INFJ already knows well and trusts, people who are new in an INFJ’s life might want to avoid them.

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Are INFJs Hard to Love?

In this post, we’re going to look at four behaviors INFJs should be mindful of if they want to have healthy romantic relationships.

How Can INFJs Resist the Urge to Change to Attract a Romantic Partner?

It takes significant mental and emotional energy to keep up a mask. As an INFJ, your mental and emotional energy would be much better spent using the gifts you were blessed with to help the world.

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What Makes an INFJ Fall in Love?

Based on my experiences as an INFJ and those of other INFJs, I’ve noticed that the deepest connection happens when it happens in the mind, heart, and soul.

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5 First Date Ideas for INFJs

Essentially, there are two main ingredients for an INFJ’s ideal first date—quiet and deep conversation.

Why Do Some INFJs Prefer to Stay Friends Over Starting a Romantic Relationship?

If an INFJ prefers to just chill, relax, or hang out with someone, it’s much easier to do that as friends.

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Why Do INFJs Struggle to Flirt?

Flirting is one of those behaviors that makes us feel inauthentic because it makes it seem like just being ourselves isn’t enough.

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What Should INFJs Do When Their Crushes Find Them Threatening?

I would advise you to keep the following five things in mind when you notice that your crushes feel intimidated by you.

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What Are Some Not-So-Obvious Signs an INFJ Likes You?

While I wasn’t ready to tell my crush that I liked him, I did want him to know I was thinking of him romantically.

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How Can INFJs and Other Deep Lovers Deal With Unrequited Love at Christmas?

I have some advice on how to stay hopeful and get through the holidays when what you really want can’t be put under the tree.

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How Can INFJs Move On from an Unrequited Crush Without Closure?

Sometimes we have to let go because the other person has clearly moved on and all we’re doing is holding onto a beautiful dream—a dream of what might have been.

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Why Do INFJs and Other Deep Lovers Hold Onto Love for So Long?

When you love so deeply, things like facts, reality, and logic tend to take a backseat.

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A Lesson in INFJ Rumination

Looking back, I realize that I might have been able to avoid all this if I had been able to think about something else all day.

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6 Things INFJs Should Keep in Mind When Texting Their Crush

Don’t panic when your crush doesn’t respond right away.

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Lessons I Learned from Unrequited Love

After many years of experience with unrequited love, I’ve learned lessons that have taught me how to be more cautious with my feelings. Here are seven of them.

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